For a long time now, I’ve stopped sharing details about my life, my activities, and even my busy schedule with others, including relatives. Here’s what I’ve discovered along the way.
While many believe that sharing our lives helps to relieve internal pressure and that gurus often advise speaking to someone about your problems, I’ve learned that, sometimes, sharing doesn’t ease your burden—it only increases it. After opening up to others, you might find that instead of feeling supported, you feel more hurt.
Some people share their successes hoping to earn admiration or recognition. However, they fail to realize that those listening might be secretly plotting to diminish what they’ve achieved. Rather than celebrating your victories, some people will wait for your failure, only to mock you instead of cheering for your success.
In this article, I will explain why sharing too much might lead to more problems than positive outcomes. It could very well be that your mouth is causing you more harm than good.
The Truth Behind Sharing
No one in this world truly wants you to be great unless they have something to gain from it. If you share your accomplishments with people who can’t benefit from them, it’s time to stop. People don’t want to hear about your success when they are struggling in their own lives. If they had the chance, they would wish for your downfall just to feel superior.
This might sound harsh, but it’s a real reflection of the world we live in. If you disagree, perhaps you’re living in a perfect world where everyone is caring, understanding, and kind. Unfortunately, that’s not the reality most of us face.
A leader treats you well because you bring value to the table. A spiritual guide shows you kindness because your presence supports their cause. Social media platforms offer you free memberships because you are the product they sell. Major brands provide convenience because they want to track your activity. Even your partner might show affection, but only because you offer something they value.
Why am I sharing this? Because everything around us is transactional. When good things happen to you, it’s because you have something of value to offer. If you had no value, no one would approach you.
The Unseen Realities of Friendship
Perhaps you’ve told me you have a friend who spends time with you without any ulterior motive. But have you considered that your time and energy are valuable? If your friend isn’t focused on building their career or earning money, they might simply be using you to pass time. If your friend invited you to work together, it’s likely because they see potential value in what you bring to the table. If you can’t generate the results they expect, they won’t continue to include you in future plans.
This is the harsh reality. We are all looking to make the most of our time and resources. If you can’t contribute to someone else’s goals, you won’t remain important in their life for long.
The Reality of Life
One day, we will all die, and one day, all these websites, platforms, and brands will fade into oblivion. It’s time to wake up and recognize what life is really about. It’s not just about you or me; it’s about understanding that we’re all here for a limited time.
It’s never too late to realize that silence is golden.
The Power of Silence
When I began keeping quiet, I noticed fewer people around me. I had more time for myself and discovered things I had been neglecting. I realized I could improve and be better than before. I started to see things differently and realized I didn’t need anyone’s approval to pursue my goals. I became a better version of myself, and I felt freer than ever before.
This isn’t about cutting people off. We are social beings, and we still need connections. I still meet people, but I choose what to share. The key is to think before you speak. If sharing something doesn’t benefit you or could harm you, it’s better to keep it to yourself.
When to Stay Silent
For example, if a friend asks to borrow money from you, how should you respond? A common response might be, “I’m low on cash right now.” But this only shows weakness and gives your friend an opportunity to press you further. The better response is simply, “No, I can’t.” No explanation is necessary. You don’t need to diminish yourself to justify your decision.
Another example: let’s say you win a lottery. Sharing the news with a close friend may seem natural, but it could lead to them suggesting ways for you to spend your winnings. People often seek to take advantage of others’ good fortune.
Or, if you’ve started a new business and it’s beginning to succeed, sharing this with relatives might seem like a good idea. But often, instead of support, you’ll encounter requests for discounts or help, placing you in a disadvantageous position.
Conclusion
This article reflects my personal perspective, and I understand if you disagree. But for those who resonate with these truths, you will undoubtedly find that your tomorrow will be better than today.
Thank you for reading. Feel free to comment below with any thoughts or questions.